Telling people who are lonely, suffering, and/or depressed that no one cares about them and that they aren’t worthy of being loved unless they can meet some standard seems pretty fucked up.
Perhaps it is a realistic view, or can work as motivation for some people, but for me at least it is extremely depressing. I do think the general idea of learning to love yourself is good though, however hard that might be
Love yourself? What if you are an unlovable person, though?
This is called "depressive realism". When a therapist is like, holy crap that guy is 100% right about everything and there's nothing I can tell him to make it better.
Yeah I do think that is all true and useful advice, so thank you. My reaction says more about myself than anything else. After some years of being depressed with not much improvement it just can feel like it will never end or get better. And then the further thought that if I don’t get better that I will be lonely forever isn’t too pleasant. That’s why I usually avoid reading these kinds of topics haha. Giving up or denying reality isn’t going to help though. But it can be nice to escape reality for a time, so I’m off to the Lands Between :fidel-salute:
Telling people who are lonely, suffering, and/or depressed that no one cares about them and that they aren’t worthy of being loved unless they can meet some standard seems pretty fucked up. Perhaps it is a realistic view, or can work as motivation for some people, but for me at least it is extremely depressing. I do think the general idea of learning to love yourself is good though, however hard that might be
Love yourself? What if you are an unlovable person, though?
This is called "depressive realism". When a therapist is like, holy crap that guy is 100% right about everything and there's nothing I can tell him to make it better.
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Yeah I do think that is all true and useful advice, so thank you. My reaction says more about myself than anything else. After some years of being depressed with not much improvement it just can feel like it will never end or get better. And then the further thought that if I don’t get better that I will be lonely forever isn’t too pleasant. That’s why I usually avoid reading these kinds of topics haha. Giving up or denying reality isn’t going to help though. But it can be nice to escape reality for a time, so I’m off to the Lands Between :fidel-salute: