Right, and that's entirely true. Women also perform the majority of even thinking about that stuff, which I think is what "mental load" (:hyperflush: ) means.

But my "emotional labor" beef is that as an academic term, it meant the performative commodification of emotions that, if deemed performatively inadequately, might lead to the loss of wages. Hochschild talked about emotional labour as being sold for a wage and having exchange-value. But now it means like, being happy that your partner got a raise instead of you. Or like, that your kid entrusts you with their emotional vulnerability.

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