Edit: Okay, wow. if the statement from a woman of “we owe you nothing” immediately sets you off emotionally, I would really encourage you to think through why that might be.
A more systemic phrasing could have been “we owe the patriarchy nothing”. I changed it to that for a second before realizing, again, that it was fine. A guy that has worked through internalized patriarchy around this will understand it’s not about them.
Patriarchy on the whole conditions men towards having a sense of entitlement towards women’s bodies, time, attention, labor, etc. It also conditions women that they should feel obligated to provide this without setting boundaries or expecting reciprocal solidarity.
Remember, we literally all have degrees of internalized bigotry, misogyny, racism, transphobia, etc because these are systemic issues. Our responsibility to ourselves and our comrades is to work through that. You are not a bad person for finding those brainworms in yourself, only if you refuse to do the work to address them.
While I do think other skills are more important what is thought I have this creeping feeling that schools are not a good place in capitalist countries of the core to teach children about emotional intelligence.
I worry one way it can be framed is to individualize the structural problems: Kevin you shall be more chill and nice and open up your emotions! While Kevin lives in shit material conditions and a state which constantly hurts the social relations.
Though I do agree that we would have to create structures and also have space and practice in these structures in which emotional intelligence, good emotional practice and practical solidarity is present and can grow.