I just want some good open source stuff that's moderated by real humans, this shit isn't really that computationally intensive to run at moderate scale. All the tech bros are just so over leveraged on capturing every modicum of data on their users that it's bloated.
Basically anyone could run a decently sized forum on a consumer PC for their immediate area without issue, but someone has to keep AWS alive or the American economy collapses...
Security is an absolute pain yeah, but it's also not like there's a great track record among the big companies anyways.