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Talk about what’s happening queerly in your life - like coming out, getting HRT, questioning, and all that good stuff.
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Slowly transitioning to homemade clothes partly for this reason. But it's a whole lot of work and really makes you appreciate industrial clothing workers a little better.
Literally depends on the medium you want to work with:
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Crochet is easy, esp for bulky weight yarns because it builds up quickly and requires less skill to maintain your stitches (and the hooks are fairly inexpensive). It's very popular with teenagers/tiktokers for that reason and there are a lot of people putting free patterns out there. Once you get into thinner weights of yarn and lacework then the difficulty goes up, but lacework really makes a project more interesting to make and the final aesthetic is something cool that you don't normally see in mass produced clothes. If you get good enough to do lace I'd recommend Japanese pattern books.
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Knitting is a little harder than crochet but is very similar in that yarn doesn't ask a whole lot from you except to have the right-sized needles. Knitting equipment can get slightly more expensive if you want to get into making socks, sweaters, or cardigans. Needle size, length, and whether you prefer double-pointed needles (DPNs) or Circular Knitting Needles will have an effect on what equipment you need, but the good news is that they're likely to last a lifetime once you get them. The reason for this is that knit stitches don't hold the yarn on their own and loose ends have to be tied off when you finish a project, so if your needles aren't set up correctly you can have some unevenness, missed stitches, etc. Knitting is good for if you like smooth looking stitches, colorwork, lacework, or cables. There are tons of youtube videos about getting into knitting, advanced stitches, etc. And lots of places like Ravelry have free or affordable patterns.
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Sewing is the big difficult one. Getting a sewing machine that can do standard modern clothing stitches is expensive, and because it's gotten popular as a hobby, people are buying up vintage sewing machines. Like the other two fiber-arts (well, four if you count Nalebinding and Weaving) there are loads of youtube tutorials on how to get started, good first projects, how to DIY a Dress Form, etc. But patterns are harder to come by and most places charge for them, even if it's resold or adapted vintage patterns. The one good part, though, is that if you draw out a paper pattern onto cheap cloth and cut it out, you now have an infinitely re-usable pattern (some people also rip all the stitches out of thrifted clothing to use the panels as patterns). I'd also recommend places like https://freesewing.org/ once you get your feet wet.
So I guess it depends on what you're feeling? I can try to pull up some links based on that.
Alternately there's a subculture of people modding thrifted stuff too, sorta like ye olde punk fashion but with a pop aesthetic.
The term for doing it for yourself is DIY clothes
https://diyclothes.net/
https://www.deviantart.com/rcsi1/journal/DIY-Punk-Clothing-Features-Tutorials-and-Links-214201816
But there is a bourgeois version of this called "thrift flipping" which can have okay patterns but should be avoided generally. https://goodonyou.eco/thrift-flipping-trend/
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today i went with a trans friend to buy summer clothes, she has a little envy cause i can wear better some shorts, starting to get confident with my body.
I realized I’m not trans today, I never fantasized about being a woman or anything. Not sure what bullshit made me feel insecure as a man but I’m pissed that I want to be a woman for some reason anyways.
Comrade, if you want to be a woman it sounds a whole lot like you're trans
Being trans doesn't any major prerequisites. I think it would be helpful to talk to trans comrades who didn't have strong (or any) dysphoria and are happy with transitioning
cis people don't want to be the other gender at all? really? that almost seems unbelievable to me. 'grass is greener on the other side' and all that. how do people NOT want to wear 'women's' clothes or use makeup or a whole host of things which are like objectively better then men's equivalents? and how do people not confuse their attraction with desire to be of the other gender?