Thanks for sharing that, actually. If we couldn't unload among our comrades, they'd have to learn to be better comrades. Not wanting to do the typical mayo thing here and make everything about me, but as a trans woman i find a lot of that really relatable. Presentation and authenticity is already such a cursed subject in a society like ours were everything is performance, everyone is on display and everybody is expected to be a brand. And when our true selves are something that's been buried under layers upon layers of ideology and oppression, when the world was made for people unlike you, people unlike me, these contradictions you mention make it that much harder to move beyond all the masquerade and spectacle. It becomes such a long march to learn who we really are and how we want to relate to our fellow human beings.