It's part of the reason why I only say it around other Black folks cause I'm not tryna be the one Black friend that white people have that "gives them permission". Ain't no passes on reclaimed slurs for those with no reason to claim it. Most especially for those who are part of the same group who used it as a slur.

white people just get upset at the idea of being restricted in any way even if they have no real intention of engaging with whatever the restriction is

This is the real reason lol. Their biggest fear is being excluded from things that have nothing to do with them anyway.