like I don't wanna be mr cracker callin cops but say you hear your neighbor bang on his front door so loud it shakes your apartment 3 rooms away, you hear him inside yelling with a woman, hard to tell what they say, but you clearly hear "get out of my face" from her, and either "give me my keys" or "give me my kids" (but wtf???) from her, shouting, and then pounding like someone is being flung around the room

is this cop time? do cops make things worse? is this "just talk to your neighbors" time even though the clear and present threat of violence is there?? I literally do not know what to do. I panicked, I called the cops, I think they literally just talked to the guy and then left.. idk what the alternative would be, I can't just get the woman alone to ask if she's okay when the dude's almost always there, guy is like 7 foot fuck,

e: I don't know how to reconcile "all cops suck they make everything worse" with not wanting to be a fucking bystander when someone is potentially (from all the sensory information I can gather) getting beaten by their partner

    • whatdo [none/use name]
      hexagon
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      2 years ago

      I think I did but I really don't know especially when all I hear afterwards is the cop talking to the guy. Maybe I just didn't hear the woman speak with them, idk. I was full of adrenaline for half an hour and just shaking. My GF was mad at me for calling the cops because "they probably know it was us" and the potential for reprisal, etc. But it's been a couple days. Literally the next day though I hear BANG BANG BANG BANG BANG on their door so loud the building shakes 3 doors away again. But I didn't hear them fighting. So it's like, did I just ensure he quietly beats his partner? Idk. It's too much for me to process

      • Ligma_Male [comrade/them]
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        2 years ago

        My GF was mad at me for calling the cops because “they probably know it was us”

        if they're three doors down they don't know who it is

      • MattsAlt [comrade/them]
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        2 years ago

        I think you did the right thing as a one off, but it should be a good reason to talk with a few of your neighbors if possible and agree to confront the guy together if something like this happens again. I wouldn't make a habit of calling the cops or thinking they'll accomplish anything