but maybe its a "you" problem ?

Well yea, I think my post pretty clearly implied that

And yes, I mean making friends and acquaintances

I had absolutely no issues with that back then when I was masking my autism, tried to fit in with well off liberals, and thought I was cishet

But now I'm trying to become friends with people completely outside of that demographic and it's hard for the aforementioned reasons in the post and other comments