White people see the edges of decency and inclusion differently because of their privilege. Not being able to say a word that a black person can say is at that boundary, it's the "big deal" boundary against which to push for them because a white person's place in society is normative and they barely have to deal with anything racialized, themselves.
A similar black person's boundary is whether to push back against some casual racism because you don't know if violence will be the response. Of course there are much worse things black people deal with at this boundary, this is a very generous example.
White people see the edges of decency and inclusion differently because of their privilege. Not being able to say a word that a black person can say is at that boundary, it's the "big deal" boundary against which to push for them because a white person's place in society is normative and they barely have to deal with anything racialized, themselves.
A similar black person's boundary is whether to push back against some casual racism because you don't know if violence will be the response. Of course there are much worse things black people deal with at this boundary, this is a very generous example.