I've been so busy and tired lately and I've been spending so much time inside, all my work has made me lose my social skills. Especially now that my gf lives far away, I have no roommates, and I live in a new city with no friends I have no network of people to talk to. I finally got myself to go out today after weeks of just staying at home working (unproductively because of my dissatisfaction) and even this one event made me so much happier. I went to a community board game night that I keep meaning to go to/ignoring (first time I went the room smelled like BO and I was put off) but this time was so much better. I missed talking to people and doing things other than chat with my friends through a screen. Shortly after I accepted an invite to another gathering which I'm more nervous about because it's at a bar and I quit drinking a couple months ago for health reasons, but I'm still so excited to meet more people and flex my social muscles. I don't like being in my shitty apartment. Meeting people and being out in the world made me feel so great today.

  • fifthedition [none/use name]
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    2 years ago

    first time I went the room smelled like BO and I was put off

    Yeah, that's pretty much board gamers (and D&D gamers). I have no idea why basic personal hygiene is such a huge problem, but it is. Stinky people. I can't sit there for two hours with cards and dice breathing in the stench of unwashed people. Not worth it.

    • wtypstanaccount04 [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      I have no idea why basic personal hygiene is such a huge problem, but it is.

      The answer is depression. Source: unhygienic guy with depression.

      • fifthedition [none/use name]
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        2 years ago

        My life used to suck, and it wasn't a big deal to take a shower. Particularly when you're going to a gaming session and going to be around other people, one of the few bright points in your benighted existence.

        Besides, board gamers and D&D players have a long history of being stinky, and they can't all have shitty lives.

    • AllCatsAreBeautiful [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      Thank you friend :meow-hug:

      However much I hate to say it, I spend far too long on this site every day

        • AllCatsAreBeautiful [he/him]
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          2 years ago

          Was contemplating a temporary self ban. For now I'm trying to consciously be more judicious about when I go on. I only come on at specific times of day now, and never on my phone. Also I usually just check notifications now.

  • baguettePants [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    I am in a very similar situation and was putting off socializing for months now. Not any longer. Thanks comrade.