I know this community has been pretty dead since it was created but I figure there's probably some lurkers. Whenever I comment on reddit, particularly on a default sub, I always feel the need to adjust the wording to make my gender ambiguous. Obviously you guys are all most likely aware that casually mentioning that you're a women can and does completely change the response you receive on a post or comment. There's been times where someone asks my gender, I respond saying "I'm a woman" , and I literally receive half a dozen downvotes on that comment. Like I wonder if it's a bunch of immature teenage boys who have hitched a ride on the anti-sjw train or weather it's fully grown ass men who just find the existence of women on the internet to be a nuisance.

This has kinda turned into a rant but I suppose I'm especially aware of it now bc I have noticed posting here feels different, I don't feel the need to watch what I saw and be overly ambiguous about my gender just to avoid potentially nasty comments. Has reddit really always been that bad?

    • lizbo [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      Yeah this is so spot on. Especially regarding horny men invading unrelated spaces, I know subreddits like /r/abrathatfits had issues with a man (or perhaps even multiple men) messaging posters while posing as a fitting specialist and trying to get women to send them bra/boob pics. So fucking gross. Like there's plenty of spaces where women voluntarily post nudes for men to enjoy, it's so shitty they have to invade spaces like that. Ofc they probably don't bother with places like /r/gonewild bc it's likely the nonvoluntary/nonconsensual aspect that gets them off. Ugh gives me the creeps. Slightly unrelated but I've actually posted in /r/gonewild a few times in the past and, kinda funny, I had really good experiences and didn't receive any creepy or threatening pms or anything. Probably bc most guys who hit those subs up are there to interact with women they know are voluntarily participating. It makes sense most of the creeps who get off on violating women would stick to harassing women just trying to go about their daily lives.