It's not illegal, but it's still weird, creepy and potentially harmful and no amount of lambasting about "the problematic age gap discourse" will make it not true.

    • JohnBrownsBussy [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      I mean, power dynamics are something that needs to be considered to make a healthy relationship, but all relationships have power dynamics. I mean, the power dynamics between men and women in general is likely more intense than the specific gap that of a 26 year old and a 19 year old.

      • LiberalSocialist [any,they/them]
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        2 years ago

        Heterosexuality is not something we can get rid of, much as I dislike it. Dating someone who’s barely an adult so not a requirement of your biology.

          • ElGosso [he/him]
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            2 years ago

            Your vote should barely count. You should only barely drive a car.

          • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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            2 years ago

            But I hate this whole “it should be legal but also like not okay”

            Nah I personally am fine with this. The law should be seperate on certain matters. Like I think certain things are a bad influence on society or immoral, yet I don't want them banned or made a crime. Like cheating in a relationship, I think that's immoral, but it shouldn't be illegal.

              • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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                2 years ago

                People here are advocating that actual social action be taken against individuals who date people significantly younger than them

                People do that as well when someone cheats. How many people fantasise about vigilante justice in cases like this, it's a common trope in films, books and TV shows.

                Something can be in a morally grey area without it being illegal. I just don't think the legal system should get involved with this kind of thing when everyone involved is an adult.

        • JohnBrownsBussy [he/him]
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          2 years ago

          I didn't actually want to accuse you of saying this, but this sounds like to me you're saying heterosexual sex can't be truly consensual?

          What I'm saying is that all relationships have power dynamics.

          • spectre [he/him]
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            2 years ago

            LS can speak for themselves, but that is a line that many radical feminists take

            • JohnBrownsBussy [he/him]
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              2 years ago

              I know, and I can see the logic. Still, I hope that straight people can have consensual sex, because the alternative would seem to make humanity irredeemable.

            • LiberalSocialist [any,they/them]
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              2 years ago

              I don’t know enough about “radical feminism” to say I am one but I’m a feminist and I’m a communist so I am a radical feminist.

              • Parzivus [any]
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                2 years ago

                In this case, I believe they're referring to the radfem idea that all heterosexual sex is wrong and that being a lesbian is as much a moral/political choice as a sexuality. Some, but not all, of these people are also TERFS.