After heavily relating to an ADHD meme that i saw here, I am now scared that I might have ADHD. I don't have any idea how I'd go about getting a diagnosis as an adult who didn't really have issues in school as a child.
I saw this article posted in this comm, and it seems to have decent advice. Anyone actually follow it here? Especially the adding structure bit?
I usually run away from structuring myself because it's too intimidating and I usually fall off the wagon. Anyone got any tips for being more organized with tasks and bigger projects/long term goals?
I think I mostly figured out the first point of "getting over your inner critic", but I feel like I need help getting through the other parts in the article, and it seems like organization/planning is crucial to that.
Start small, go slow.
People have told me that the following sounds like a famous piece of shits advice to young men, so bear in mind it’s informed by my own experiences, not some fucked up protestant ethos:
If you don’t make your bed right after getting up (or getting your coffee or whatever), do that. Do it for a week, then a month.
It doesn’t matter if you screw up at making the bed every day, so you done stand as much of a chance of falling into despair over it. Just make it when you notice and get back to doing it at your set time every morning.
Once you have a month of that under your belt, do the dishes after every meal, not just when the sink fills up. It’s no big deal if you fail, just catch it and knock ‘em out.
At best, you’re gonna be working to re-learn processes of thinking and feeling that took twenty years to develop. Your body (incl. brain) is a train and track and terrain that greatly influences how you’ll navigate the world around you. You can’t make some fast change because you don’t have controls in the cabin to turn and even if you did, are you even holding the wheel to make the turn or just jerking it once? Let’s say you held the turn, are there even tracks to the ridge you’re aiming for?
Make small changes and don’t rush em. The goal isn’t to get to the point where you do something normal that you struggle with everyday, but to make it normal for you to do that thing everyday. You’re digging a rut with a paintbrush, it’s gonna take a while.