I'm way more scared of the stigma of catching an STD than of the STD itself. I know that's pretty shallow but I'm so socially awkward and slow to trust that I don't know how I'd deal with the disclosing to partners aspect.
Serious question for sex-havers: how do you navigate STD testing with new partners? If I ever re-entered the dating pool I feel pretty strongly that I'd want a prospective partner to get tested with me so we can both have some assurance of safety (although I'd still insist on condoms).
If someone asked me to get tested I wouldn't take it personally, but I know that some people do. The "both" part would hopefully reduce some of the perceived judgment, but I'm sure there's more to introducing it tactfully. On some level, someone who reacted strongly to a neutral and matter-of-fact request for safety and transparency probably wouldn't be a great fit for me to begin with, but that doesn't mean there aren't smoother ways to present things.
...tangential, but I wonder if the proportion of "X but Y" compound sentences in someone's speech has any correlation with their level of anxiety, fear of judgment, or lack of confidence :homer-bye:
Given the spread of gonorrhea I think most don't. From my understanding every six months is probably sufficient. In the absence of symptoms anyway. It would take a little bit kf time from when you are exposed to when you are infected. So much more than that isn't likely to find any hidden situations. Depends on your availability of healthcare and what they test for more than anything though.
But more genuinely I think for me if a situation is turning sexual I find some way to awkwardly insert a vague but telling comment into the conversation like, "I'm good," followed by an expecting look. I've always rolled with if there are no symptoms and no known issues then protected :volcel-judge: is fine.
Def a clinic visit and full test before unprotected :volcel-judge: , have asked partners to do it and been asked to do it. If u are not responsible enough to get tested for me u do not get to :volcel-judge: me
I'm way more scared of the stigma of catching an STD than of the STD itself. I know that's pretty shallow but I'm so socially awkward and slow to trust that I don't know how I'd deal with the disclosing to partners aspect.
Serious question for sex-havers: how do you navigate STD testing with new partners? If I ever re-entered the dating pool I feel pretty strongly that I'd want a prospective partner to get tested with me so we can both have some assurance of safety (although I'd still insist on condoms).
If someone asked me to get tested I wouldn't take it personally, but I know that some people do. The "both" part would hopefully reduce some of the perceived judgment, but I'm sure there's more to introducing it tactfully. On some level, someone who reacted strongly to a neutral and matter-of-fact request for safety and transparency probably wouldn't be a great fit for me to begin with, but that doesn't mean there aren't smoother ways to present things.
...tangential, but I wonder if the proportion of "X but Y" compound sentences in someone's speech has any correlation with their level of anxiety, fear of judgment, or lack of confidence :homer-bye:
Given the spread of gonorrhea I think most don't. From my understanding every six months is probably sufficient. In the absence of symptoms anyway. It would take a little bit kf time from when you are exposed to when you are infected. So much more than that isn't likely to find any hidden situations. Depends on your availability of healthcare and what they test for more than anything though.
Ask to see the carfax
But more genuinely I think for me if a situation is turning sexual I find some way to awkwardly insert a vague but telling comment into the conversation like, "I'm good," followed by an expecting look. I've always rolled with if there are no symptoms and no known issues then protected :volcel-judge: is fine.
Def a clinic visit and full test before unprotected :volcel-judge: , have asked partners to do it and been asked to do it. If u are not responsible enough to get tested for me u do not get to :volcel-judge: me