Hey. I often have met friends and partners through mental health agencies, support groups and peer support groups. I have also dated the neurodiverse when I've met them through work. I almost exclusively have a social network of oddballs and before that it was oddballs and alcoholics/junkies.

The people I get along with are often schizo-bipolars, bipolors, borerlines and ASD.

At times people have been suspicious of me because though I don't drink I do other drugs. People get worried that drug use itself is evidence I would try to get vulnerable partners on drugs. That would be evil and most users are not. When I was addicted I either with a married woman who was disappointed I didn't use heroin, who had ASD. Her friend had contacted lies about me and got a group of people to go along with her BS.

Or I was with a woman I didn't love who loved me more than any other one did and kinda broke her heart by stringing her along as I was high all the time. I feel bad about it but I didn't get her started on drugs.

Some people are also cynical about why I would utilize groups, comparing me to Ed Nortton in Fight Club. While I identify with the movie in certain anarchist and bipolar ways, I am not faking anything.

I have led the groups at times and thought I might work in the field. I definitely will not after meeting dozens upon dozens of troubled folks.

It's tough to try to be open with all groups about who I am. NT and Heteronormatives are suspicious about dating the neurodiverse or having a good proportion of LGBT friends as well.

  • MaoistLandlord [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    No, I don't. I find that they don't want anything to do with me just like any other person

    • goatmeal [none/use name]
      hexagon
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      2 years ago

      Sorry to hear that. If you're a quiet person I suggest you speak up more. If you're too loud I recommend you check your tone.

      I struggle with both.

      • MaoistLandlord [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        It’s not that, mainly. Though usually I just don’t have anything to say

    • Hohsia [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      Can relate. I feel like there’s just nothing going on up there (in terms of things socialization-related)

      Though my only ex was neurodiverse

  • gaycomputeruser [she/her]
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    2 years ago

    Most of my close friends are nd, but that isn't the same for my more "standard" friends. It's too tiring for me to be around friends that aren't nd or nts who have spent a lot of time with nds.