ghosts [he/him] to neurodiverse • 5 months ago

Gifted a Bonsai Tree after Opening Up About ADHD

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Gifted a Bonsai Tree after Opening Up About ADHD

ghosts [he/him] to neurodiverse • 5 months ago

I'm pretty sure my dad drunkenly bought me a bonsai tree. But this was after several days and hours of discussions about my main issue of being unable to chip away at maintenance tasks, like work. Like this was my main concern: I CAN'T DO REGULAR MAINTENANCE. I AM INCAPABLE.

And a bonsai tree is literally the most antithetical gift I could possibly imagine because it needs intricate daily care and it lives forever. So...........

I'm just reeling tbh. I don't even want to confront him and I know he'll ask about it at some point, and I'll be like yeah it died 🤷‍♂️ and I'm just going to fixate on this forever jesus christ

What do?

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PlantPowerPhysicist@discuss.tchncs.de
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5 months ago
I have ADHD and like gardening, but nope, wouldn't want to deal with keeping a bonsai tree. However, a bonsai tree is just a tree that's kept small from how it's maintained. If you plant it outside, it will just be a tree, eventually (unless it dies, idk if you're in an ok climate for it).

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