Sorry if this is the wrong comm, but I had to get this off my chest. I am so sick and tired of dealing with bi-erasure. I am a bisexual man who is I'd say 90% attracted to women and 10% attracted to men. Best I can explain it, I am mostly attracted to women and occasionally attracted to a man. It really is that simple, but for a lot of people I might as well be explaining calculus. I understand if most straight people can't fathom it, after all they are straight. But what really irks me is when other LGBT people erase it, telling me I am "in the closet" or whatever. It makes me so damn angry because I am not in the closet, I am open about my bisexuality, yet no one believes it. I have only dated women, but everyone in my life off and online including my gf who herself is LGBTQ+ thinks I am gay. I'm so sick of it I think I'll either just tell people I am straight or become gay.

  • TreadOnMe [none/use name]
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    1 year ago

    Exactly! And, importantly, this social set-up is also mentally punishing for those that do their best to empathize because their genuine attempts to empathize are rebuffed with hostility or 'seen as weird', which is painful for those that are attempting genuine interactions.

      • TreadOnMe [none/use name]
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        1 year ago

        Lol, thanks. I was born with and have mastered one skill and that is multi-media observation with interpersonal and societal analysis.

        To quote the great Glenn Braca, I'd sell out anytime but nobody is buying.

    • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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      1 year ago

      Word. The complete disinterest in empathy and understanding the Other that is so common in the real world is mentally scarring. Finding out so many people are totally indifferent to the suffering of people who aren't just like them hurts, and it keeps hurting every time I encounter it.