Sorry if this is the wrong comm, but I had to get this off my chest. I am so sick and tired of dealing with bi-erasure. I am a bisexual man who is I'd say 90% attracted to women and 10% attracted to men. Best I can explain it, I am mostly attracted to women and occasionally attracted to a man. It really is that simple, but for a lot of people I might as well be explaining calculus. I understand if most straight people can't fathom it, after all they are straight. But what really irks me is when other LGBT people erase it, telling me I am "in the closet" or whatever. It makes me so damn angry because I am not in the closet, I am open about my bisexuality, yet no one believes it. I have only dated women, but everyone in my life off and online including my gf who herself is LGBTQ+ thinks I am gay. I'm so sick of it I think I'll either just tell people I am straight or become gay.
in the case of gay men there's that thing where at one point they were still not entirely comfortable with themselves/others and surrounded by straight guys, so they said they were bi in order to not shake the boat too hard, "hey I'm still like you guys".
You're supposed to grow out of that though, and realize it was a shitty thing to do (and stupid too), not project your experience on everyone else. Also for fucks sake, everyone is a little bi the Kinsey scale has been around since the 60's, it's not hard to understand.
Sometimes it's not worth the hassle though. I say I'm gay to people since I'm like a 5.7 on the scale. If I end up in a hetero relationship I'll deal with the :surprised-pika: later.
You see a similar dynamic occasionally when some insecure binary trans folks are talking with enbies. It's totally understandable to shift how you identity as you gain a better understanding of yourself, but it's absolute bullshit to project that onto another person.
It's annoying that Kinsey actually hooked up people's genitals to sensors to figure out what their autonomic nervous system that they have no conscious control over had an arousal response to, and everyone has just basically ignored the results for sixty years.