unironically can't bring myself to hate her though because she was one of the people who made me start to see some of the cracks in capitalist realism
unironically can't bring myself to hate her though because she was one of the people who made me start to see some of the cracks in capitalist realism
singular they is for when you don't know someone's pronouns
or if they prefer them, like me
I'm going to give OP the benefit of the doubt, and assume if OP meant to misgender contra, OP would've used masculine pronouns.
(And not self evidently clear, to me at least, that contra would use fem pronouns.)
Terfs do the they/them misgenderinjg thing all the time when they want plausible deniability, it's incredibly naive and completely removed from reality to assume that transphobia, especially lowkey internalized transphobia that people are in denial about, always has to be blatantly obvious.
Regardless of that, the only reasonable and not inherently transphobic reaction to misgendering somebody is to politely correct yourself. Getting snarky or starting a debate about this where you argue why it was ok to misgender a trans person means you have issues with this that you need to work through.
she's a very public trans woman on the record about how much she/her pronouns mean to her. unless you're going to do this to cis people as well, don't do it to binary trans people.