Sure, "nice" needs some definition.

But that's your call. I'm asking you if you are a nice person.

  • ianovic69@feddit.uk
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    7 months ago

    I can be. The other day, I was driving on a 70mph road and the lead car two in front hit a young deer. She had tried her best to avoid it but there was nothing she could do.

    She pulled over with her signals flashing and as I went past I realised no one was going to stop, and then I had the thought of that happening to my wife, who is a vegetarian and would have been in bits, so I pulled over and ran back to check on her.

    She was crying and shaking, I asked her to drop the window a bit and if she was ok. I told her it wasn't her fault and she should take as long as needed before driving, and that I would be in my car if needed.

    I had my lunch and her husband soon arrived, coming to thank me, which I wasn't expecting. They were very nice and it was very sad and I was slightly emotional. They left eventually and I carried on with my day.

    I can be grumpy as fuck, though.

  • thelardboy@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    7 months ago

    I'm a lovely person to everyone until they show me that they don't deserve it. After that, they are dead to me. Unfortunately, one of the people who has shown me that they don't deserve my time or respect is me, so i treat myself like shit. This does not work out so well for me.

  • oscardejarjayes [comrade/them]
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    7 months ago

    probably? I feel like it would make more sense to ask someone else if I was nice (assuming you want an accurate response), given I might be a little biased.

  • feoh@lemmy.ml
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    7 months ago

    I don't love this question.

    I spent a huge chunk of my life putting so much focus into being "nice" that some friends sremovedd about me being "a doormat".

    Also? The word "nice" has so many soft negative connotations in 2024.

    Subtext: if you're "nice" you're fundamentally un-interesting Subtext: if you're "nice" you're a push over and ripe to be taken advantage of.

    GOOD person? MORAL person? OK.

    Nice? Asking anyone to attribute this to themselves is a foot gun.

  • leaky_shower_thought@feddit.nl
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    7 months ago

    no. but i try to forgive myself for not taking the opportunity. imo, it is a skill that forms through a lot of interactions. a form of rizz. and to me, it doesn't come as natural.

  • Doxatek@mander.xyz
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    7 months ago

    Nice to a fault. I think it's because I try to be the person I always wish I would have had access to because I've never really had any support from anyone.

  • gerryflap@feddit.nl
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    7 months ago

    Hopefully, most of the time. I feel like I'm generally friendly and helpful, and compared to many people around me I feel like I don't let myself get to carried away with anger or frustration. I'm not too good at showing it though. Due to autism I feel like there's a bit of a difference between how society expects people to show friendliness and how I do it. I'm quite reserved and I usually don't randomly show up or give gifts or something. I generally don't care about my own birthday and such, and therefore I'll also not think about those things for others. I try to detect when it does matter to people, and think of something to do or give, but honestly these expectations really stress me out.

    I can definitely be a bit of an asshole sometimes though. I don't like people talking nonsense. In places where it matters, like work, want direct communication, with as little weaseling around as possible. No big words, no politics. So I will be that person that asks the "rude" and difficult question if it's necessary. I'm also quite stubborn, and require strong argumentation to actually be convinced of something. I've become more aware of this, so I tend to think twice nowadays to ensure that I'm really fighting a fight worth fighting and don't let myself get carried away too much with debating minor things.

  • BlackRing@midwest.social
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    7 months ago

    No.

    I am a good person with a capacity for kindness. The difference? It's not reflex.

    Nice is the guy waving you through at a stop sign when it's their turn. Sure there's good intention, but seriously? No.

  • Juice@midwest.social
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    7 months ago

    I think so. I'm kind and caring, I have really great friends who wouldn't be if I wasn't also a genuinely good person.

    I haven't always been but I always tried to be. For a long time I was really chaotic and had some personal issues that made it hard for me to like actually follow through with it. But I worked on myself a lot and I continue to. I still fuck up and I'm sure there's people who think I'm a dick. But for the most part I'm a nice, kind person

  • kingthrillgore@lemmy.ml
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    7 months ago

    Yes, I try to be. I can't be an asshole, I feel really bad about it. I have had to be the cruel person and the liar a handful of times, and I hate to do it. But it is what it is. I look at someone like Elon Musk as the embodiment of a "terrible person" and do the opposite of him.

    I am definitely not a narcissist, I am definitely not self-centered, and I am definitely not cruel.