cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/2766019

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Without getting into too much detail...I have been abused by women most of my life. I finally ended an abusive marriage with a female narcissist. I have never really struggled with this issue up until recently.

I am finding that I am often dismissed and not believed when I try to discuss this issue, even to therapists and my lawyer (all whom have also been female). I have almost no resources or support. There are no men's groups for this issue in my area. Often online I will see people mock people like myself. I have even had people on socialist sites dismiss situations like mine. It is beyond frustrating.

I understand how it is and I know that patriarchy and misogyny are still huge issues, but I've noticed myself feeling very resentful towards a lot of women recently and sometimes veer into misogynistic thoughts.

I don't want to be like this, but I am struggling.

Any advice on what I can do to control these thoughts and retrain my brain?

  • SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them]
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    17 days ago

    You know, just be exposed to women enough to drill it in that women are just people, 99% of which mean you no harm.

    Pretty much this. I had a period after a break up where I started to hate women and resent them. Coincides with a time in my life where I was consuming reactionary content too and getting into mgtow/mra stuff. The most important take away I can give is that women are just humans like the rest of us, and most of them are good people.

    • sir_this_is_a_wendys [he/him]
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      17 days ago

      I have had good women in my life. I am absolutely not ready for any sort of relationship right now and probably won't be for a couple years at least, but I am going to start attending an art therapy class once a week.