A lot of that's probably some neural process resulting from evolution honestly, despite being able to recognize these things we do only have so many senses and mental buckets.

I've always had friends who were women/girls growing up, mostly through other friends. It's possible otherwise I may have been susceptible to similar patterns of thinking after a relationship ending. I'd say the relationship with therapists and lawyers is still somewhat stressful, even if it gets you to a less stressful place ultimately, so I can see why it may leech into relationships like that...

So my input would be to try finding a hobby where you can be at ease around women, other people too you know what I mean probably. Maybe some kind of martial art or something easy like board games (there's actually really good ones now).