When they say it they’re always seem to mean it as a compliment but I kind of get offended because of the connotation behind the term ‘nice guy’. And in the back of my head there’s that suspicion that they could possibly be making a dig at me.
I dunno, I feel like in the West being called a nice XX denotes that you’re weak, or insecure, or unattractive.
dont you want to be nice? were you trying to be mean? this is internet poisoning but its prominent in the general culture as well. other than insecure men who need to put others down, nobody is out there calling ppl “nice” as an insult
example: i met my sister’s bf the other day and she asked what i thought of him. one of the words i used was “nice”- not bc i thought he was cringe or boring, he was actually really cool and fun to be around. he was nice bc he was kind, respectful, and caring