When they say it they’re always seem to mean it as a compliment but I kind of get offended because of the connotation behind the term ‘nice guy’. And in the back of my head there’s that suspicion that they could possibly be making a dig at me.
I dunno, I feel like in the West being called a nice XX denotes that you’re weak, or insecure, or unattractive.
that's a good way to put it too. honestly overthinking shit is almost always the wrong move, unless you're in something high-stakes like what you outlined