I LOVE TO CONTINUALLY MAKE MY LOVED ONES UPSET OR HURT AND HAVE NO IDEA WHY OR HOW! SO I CANT EVEN PROPERLY APOLOGIZE FOR IT BECAUSE I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT I DID WRONG!!!!! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGHHHJJJJJ!!!!!!!
I had this problem with an ex friend. I would generally reel off a bunch of nonsense when I talk forgetting it almost as quickly as I had said it. Then a few days later this person would start avoiding me or ignoring me and I'd ask why. They would then reiterate how they won't tell me because I'm stupid and will just do it again.
Months later I'll do whatever it is again and they'd get annoyed and say I'd done it again and yet refuse to say what it was then deride me for being stupid enough to not know what it was while not telling me what it was.
After this loop about 3000 times I finally got bored of it and deleted them from my life.
My partner says "theres no point in telking you. You won't get it"
The only time I would want to say something like this is if I'm mad about something I know is irrational. But anytime I'm like that I tell my partner the stupid logical leaps in my brain instead and it generally dispells whatever I was mad about. But that's just me.