I just realised that "like it's your first time" has a positive connotation I guess, but like... motherfucker? Do most people have non-awful first-time experiences of sex? Between garbage sex ed and cisheteronormativity I just can't imagine. I doubt it was even momentous for most people tbh? Idk.
The first person I really deeply loved and cared for I remember the more tender moments than sex. Sex is nice but just being there comfortable with that person is what I connect with more strongly.