I just realised that "like it's your first time" has a positive connotation I guess, but like... motherfucker? Do most people have non-awful first-time experiences of sex? Between garbage sex ed and cisheteronormativity I just can't imagine. I doubt it was even momentous for most people tbh? Idk.
It is an exaggerated concept, for sure. It can be an important and formative experience, but it's from person to person. I lost my V-card to knife-play and the whole experience was spectacular. But like, my second partner was kind of a shit-show and I came out of it a sadder, but wiser man.