I just realised that "like it's your first time" has a positive connotation I guess, but like... motherfucker? Do most people have non-awful first-time experiences of sex? Between garbage sex ed and cisheteronormativity I just can't imagine. I doubt it was even momentous for most people tbh? Idk.

  • axont [she/her, comrade/them]
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    4 months ago

    I haven't had a first time but I've been close a few times. It felt fun at first, but then I realized I wasn't doing anything for my own sake. I felt like I was putting up an act for the other person and wasn't enjoying myself. Then when it got time to really get intimate, I always backed away because I started feeling like shit.

    I've only recently learned in the past year that's not normal and that I'm probably just on the ace spectrum lmao ace-heart