Not saying that I want to go full-corpo, but the idea of getting ahead in a career is really appealing to me. I feel stuck in my job I have now because there's not much chance of advancement and the hours are really inconsistent. I've been considering going back to college to pursue something that would allow me to have a stable income. To tell you the truth, I'm jealous of the memes about trans girls being software engineers. I want to be one too. I would definitely make a lot more than I'm making right now. It's also the job my dad has, and I was curious about what it would be like as a career when I was younger. All the layoffs were really what scared me away from it, but I'm not in a much better situation right now. I just don't really know of any trans guys that are in professional positions like that. I don't know if there's a reason for it, or if the guys that do get ahead like that just go stealth.
I can’t speak to the challenges or success stories of trans men in software engineering but if you check out Out In Tech you might be able to connect with more people in a similar situation. Whatever you end up doing from here good luck!
Hi, I'm mtf, but in tech, so maybe I can be a bit helpful.
I'm thinking you may be right that a lot of guys are stealth. It's very hard to be stealth mtf in tech because there are already not many women. At my company, there are three women in engineering, me and two cis lesbians. So I kinda stick out. But it would be pretty easy to be unremarkable if you pass as a man. I actually know (well, talk-to-on-the-internet) at least one stealth trans guy in tech, so you do exist. Tech is relatively cool with queer people, depending on the area, so I don't think being stealth is a requirement for a successful career.
I really like software engineering as a career for two reasons. First, something about my brain (autism?) Makes solving little puzzles on my computer and putting together virtual systems super satisfying. And also, software is one of the easiest ways to a stable career. Like what other field can get you a 6 figure salary with a 4 year degree? And honestly office work is pretty easy as long as you work for a chill company. Money and stability are big advantages when you're trans.
I'm sure you already know this, but there are lots of good careers in tech outside of programming. Some good examples are cyber security, cloud/sre/devops, and data scientist. You can get into all of these with a bachelor's degree, but some you can do with an associate's instead and save two years.
But, like, I guess the job market is weird and messed up rn, so maybe the more education the better. But even with the tech layoffs there are stuff tons of jobs out there. Sure, you might have to work at a bank instead of Google, but it's still a stable, well-payed office job. Don't get discouraged by silly undergrad cs students who are doomer about everything because they didn't get the Facebook internship.
I'm totally down to answer more questions if you want or chat about tech. Good luck figuring out your path through dystopian late capitalism!
I'm a trans guy working as a professional software eng, and yeah, I'm stealth.
I'm sorry I (and presumably many others) don't act as real life representation save for these online spaces! I promise you we are out there, and being trans doesn't have to be a barrier.
I don't think I'd be in hot water if I came out or anything either; I just work at a company that is largely older and conservative so I'm just personally being extra cautious in not wanting to add any unnecessary social tension.