I got a bachelors degree in mechanical engineering from a ‘good school’ and yet I never got a good entry level job in the field so I was just wandering the wastelands for a long while before I got a good corporate bullshit job from which I got fired after 3 years and now I have no actual engineering skills and tens of thousand in college debt

I’m 33 and live with my parents and I’m in this constant cycle of living with them until I find a good job in some far away city. They live in a remote place where the only jobs available are 7.50 and yet the living costs are absurd so really, you’re pretty much working just to work. The problem is I can’t move out and do human things such as live by own and have a meaningful because I need a decent salary to survive, and that can only happen if I get something in a far away big city. I don’t want to have to fend for peanuts living paycheck to paycheck(i’ve already tried that a couple of times) in some rathole in a city but I also hate living with my parents so I’m forced in an all or nothing mindset where I need to have a decent salary. I wish I could just take a low wage jobs in some other city but the logistics don’t allow me to.

I feel like I’m rambling, I just feel incredibly stuck, my social life and dating lives are nonexistent and I’m completely fucking broke. I just masturbate all day in my parents house. I have a degree that should be lucrative according to this shitass society, I’m not the archetype of a basement dwelling reddit loser because I do have drive and have moved from place to place and worked and clawed my way through life and stay fit and know how to talk to women and I constantly feel like I shouldn’t be where I’m at but…I kind of am a fucking loser.

Experience shows me that, I guess, this too shall pass and I should land on my feet but god damn I’m regressing constantly and every aspect of my life can’t be moved forward if Instay with my parents in this town. Sorry to rant

    • gueybana [any]
      hexagon
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      1 month ago

      Hey, thanks so much, I’ll check it out and reply in the dms

    • roux [he/him, comrade/them]
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      1 month ago

      Can I be greedy and ask for a dm too? I am trying to do freelance web dev with zero luck but I also have an IT background.

      • MidnightPocket [comrade/them]
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        1 month ago

        We can talk about whatever you want. I specialize in IT but I can talk compsci a bit; I was going down that road for a minute - would love to save you some misery where I can.

    • Diuretic_Materialism [he/him]
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      1 month ago

      Can you DM me too? I'm studying Cybersecurity right now but it sounds like this BS is affecting my field too.

    • jwmgregory@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      1 month ago

      ik you’re getting bombed with request but i’m in a similar boat in the IT industry at the entry level. may i request a dm as well? i really appreciate any help i can get

      • MidnightPocket [comrade/them]
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        edit-2
        28 days ago

        Hey comrade-

        Just seeing this now, sorry - life gets fast.

        Still willing to talk about anything that might help you orient yourself for employment, etc.

        If you can hit me with a quick (op-sec friendly, use DM) bio about yourself and your experience level along with some pointed questions about what you are struggling with now I will respond with advice on how to proceed.