As a man trying to get laid with women, I’m constantly having to play games and lean into patriarchal convention because that is really the only way to be half way successful.

The song and dance is mind numbingly stupid but you have to do it if you want to get your pp touched. Nuke cishet dating from orbit, I need a director’s cut, a rerelease. I’m convinced no one actually likes this.

  • Nakoichi [they/them]M
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    1 month ago

    Weird how "leftist" men grasp at blaming a systemic issue that they try to assimilate into to get their dick wet and then try to blame women.

    • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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      1 month ago

      I mean op specifically and clearly assigns blame to patriarchy and the expectations it enforces on all of us.

      • UlyssesT [he/him]
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        1 month ago

        Yeah, what OP posted seemed fine, if a bit blunt of intent. What the fuck was that Reddity shit at the start of this comment chain?

        • Abracadaniel [he/him]
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          30 days ago

          full, guaranteed reproductive rights for women would probably change these dynamics a bit. and their absence is enforced by patriarchy.

          • Iwishiwasntthisway [none/use name]
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            30 days ago

            To a limited degree, but that doesn't mean that OP is going to have more opportunities, it just means that more casual sexual opportunities might exist. I'm sorry this is such a controversial idea here, I'm really shocked to be honest. But women are not depriving you of sexual favors solely because they are afraid of getting pregnant, or being slut shamed, or out of cruelty, or even as a power play.

            The desire for sex is in large part a response to being desired by a desirable person. And the only solution to that is to adopt behaviors that are deemed desirable to the people you want, and illustrating that desire through ways that are meaningful to the people you want. I can sympathize with the idea that this is more taxing on one sex than the other in cishet dating. But after just finishing up multiple rounds of multiple physical therapies after giving birth to a child forgive me if I'm not inclined to think that men have it worse than women or that they are somehow to blame for the fact that I can't do burpees without wearing adult diapers

            • Abracadaniel [he/him]
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              30 days ago

              to be clear, I don't share OP's issues I'm just trying to bridge these perspectives.