Typically I'm a lurker and feel I dont have much to contribute either, but you're all so friendly

That is the magic here, you don't have to contribute in terms of utility. There is no minimum utility you have to bring, neither.

We even are somewhat chill with episodes that break site rules, as long as you chill with the 1 day ban and make your peace. I know at some point having people tell me that was also good for me.