"So, you mean they're homophobic?"
"Well, no, but-"
"So they're misogynistic? Racist? Transphobic? Ableist???"
"N-no, actually they enforce strict banning on all those things, BUT-"
"So they bully people into suicide?"
"Nooo, they require content warnings for even mentions of suicide, BUT!"
"...Yes?"
"I saw one of them say 'death to nazis!"
"So they're the opposite of 4Chan?"
"NO!"
If you ban transphobes and racists on sight, you're just like 4chan. That's why we should be like the enlightened lib instances and let them be.