I'm not sure I should start this conversation and I've been rewriting this a lot lol. But I could use some relating and opinions from fellow internet leftists

Ok so, to keep it really simple: I happened to share a meal with somebody I really liked. I have interacted casually (no flirting) for about a dozen minutes total and we exchanged contact because of shared-interests (not dating)

Now my brain is fried

I'm thinking about her way too much and it gives be bad vibes, she probably has no idea and I can't imagine the sheer horror of realising that someone is thinking this much about you after so little interaction.

I want to be a well-behaved straight (kinda bi but that's beyond the point) guy, I'm trying to be an ally to the feminist cause, so, failing this spectacularly at behaving normally in relation to women disgust me. I know I can't remove the patriarchy from my body but I damn wish I could.

    • bigboopballs [he/him]
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      3 months ago

      Why is everyone so fucking neurotic about this?

      Like why are half the posters in this thread going WHOAAA THAT'S JUST A STEP AWAY FROM BECOMING A PSYCHO STALKER ABUSER

      • FunkyStuff [he/him]
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        3 months ago

        It's understandable up to a certain point because most men are gross, we suck and there's constant evidence for that worldview. But I agree that it's excessive to bring that attitude to a thread where someone who is struggling with a social situation is asking for support and has given us next to no reason to think anything untowards has happened.

      • EmoThugInMyPhase [he/him]
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        3 months ago

        Because people here don’t have positive leftist male role models besides dudes who died decades ago. So you go to the extremes out of ignorance/lack of viewpoints and/or a desire to appear as if you are The One Good Male

    • lil_tank [any, he/him]
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      3 months ago

      I have dealt with leftism long enough to know that it's never as simple /s

      But seriously yeah I know it's fine it's just some kind of anxiety, I don't know what I'm afraid of, to my knowledge I've never been creepy to anyone, yet somehow I'm tormented by the idea of being one

        • Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's]
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          3 months ago

          yeah, but a dude worrying about potentially being a creep and than some other guy coming along and being like "there is no way to think about a women and be a creep" just rubs me the wrong way.

          • FunkyStuff [he/him]
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            3 months ago

            I'm sorry. I interpreted the OP as being pretty much completely benign, the typical overthinking you do when falling in love as a lonely person. If he does have thoughts that would push him to cross boundaries and make her uncomfortable or unsafe then that is a problem, I just didn't see anything that pointed in that direction.