I'm not sure I should start this conversation and I've been rewriting this a lot lol. But I could use some relating and opinions from fellow internet leftists

Ok so, to keep it really simple: I happened to share a meal with somebody I really liked. I have interacted casually (no flirting) for about a dozen minutes total and we exchanged contact because of shared-interests (not dating)

Now my brain is fried

I'm thinking about her way too much and it gives be bad vibes, she probably has no idea and I can't imagine the sheer horror of realising that someone is thinking this much about you after so little interaction.

I want to be a well-behaved straight (kinda bi but that's beyond the point) guy, I'm trying to be an ally to the feminist cause, so, failing this spectacularly at behaving normally in relation to women disgust me. I know I can't remove the patriarchy from my body but I damn wish I could.

  • Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's]
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    3 months ago

    I think to a certain extent it's fine to be excited that you felt a connection with someone and it might lead to something.
    But we also have to put emphasis on that might.
    You shouldn't go into the thing actually expecting anything to happen and the amount you are thinking about that might not be completely healthy.

    • lil_tank [any, he/him]
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      3 months ago

      You shouldn't go into the thing actually expecting anything to happen and the amount you are thinking about that might not be completely healthy.

      Couldn't agree more, I'm trying to work on this right now