Hi all,
With regards to our recent integration into the Fediverse, it has become evident that specific rules should be outlined regarding our conduct towards it and our place in it. As such, we are making provisional amendments to the Code of Conduct in specific regard to federation as we find our footing and stake our ground as a part of the wider Fediverse ecosystem. The amendments are as such, demarcated within the dividers:
Federation
In regards to the Fediverse, a dual-pronged approach should be assumed:
Local Communities
Conduct remains as previously outlined [in the Hexbear Code of Conduct], except:
- Users visiting Hexbear should be given breathing room to inquire in good-faith about topics that seem obvious to well-trodden leftists. Assume good faith in even the most obvious of questions, except in cases where a user is explicitly acting in a combative or unreasonable manner.
- Do not ping users from other federated instances with intent to goad or mock.
- Do not directly link to comments or posts of other federated instances on public posts with intent to goad or mock.
- Disengagement rules, whilst not amended, are thoroughly emphasized regarding visiting users.
Federated Instances
Assume the conduct outlined regarding local communities, as well as:
- When in a federated instance, their rules (and their code of conduct) apply.
- Allow instances their own space for discussion, if requested implicitly or explicitly. If said discussion regards this site or its users, you are allowed to discuss said discussion within the local purview (meaning, within a Hexbear community), with regards to the rules laid out prior.
- Conduct that is deemed untenably toxic to the Fediverse and Hexbear’s standing within it (by discretion of Hexbear moderation) may be subject to reprisal, regardless of whether it is explicitly outlined.
We're thankful to the moderation and admins of the instances federated with us for their patience as we carve out our own little hole within the Fediverse. And to our beautiful posters, thank you for bearing with us in this week where decades happen 
This approach almost never works on the internet because there are no negative social consequences for them acting like a little shit. The internet makes dunking required.
It goes without saying that you should follow Huey's advice irl though.
I've seen comrades here making some really solid and calm effort posts in comments sections lately, and I've seen multiple people from other instances coming around to our ideas or at least entertaining them.
On the other hand, I haven't seen anyone come around after being dogpiled or dunked on. It doesn't even stop them from replying or spreading their dumb shit ideas.
You're right, the majority of people aren't going to come around regardless of what you say, but calm education should always be the first choice (especially because others might read it and be convinced). Dunking can come after that when they continue to be a little shit, but at least your effort post will remain public.
Nobody comes around during or right after a dunk. They're put in a defensive position. Dunks are for (1) anyone else reading and (2) the occasional self-reflection/unconscious internalization that takes place over days/weeks.
We've seen this work over and over again. It's why Hexbear is so pro-trans.