That's it. Our instance requires us to stop responding if you explicitly ask us to. It's right here buried in our Code of Conduct
Any discussions may be opted out of by disengaging.
In the past, this rule has only applied to the specific user you say it to. I'd like to suggest going forward that if someone on another instance uses it, we treat it as applying to all of us.
Unfortunately this rule wasn't communicated clearly before, so I'm making this post for visibility.
Edit: As the comments clarify, this has to be done in good faith, typically just a one word "disengage" comment. If you add more stuff to the discussion and then say "disengage" at the end, you're not disengaging, it's a way to put a stop to a toxic argument not to get the last word in.
I do, sometimes a discussion can be unproductive and both parties are posting through it, but you don't want to block someone who is otherwise a comrade just because you don't want to struggle session anymore on this topic.
Can't you just stop replying?
"Disengage" sends a concrete message that a limit may have been passed, and may inform the disengagee to reflect on it.
It also helps those terminally online to know this current engagement has ended and it's okay to move on.
Sure but you could just stop replying. I think the problem is people love to have the last word and "disengage" is the ultimate last word.
Sure if you only approach a discussion with lame debatebro energy.
It's also a clear signal to moderation for harassment evidence.