No judgment.
I had to marry my wife because all my life I had been looking for someone to jam with. I have met some great musicians, many people far more talented than I am, but it was always hard to find someone who I could instantly and easily connect that flow with and rock out together.
When I met my wife and I heard her strum and sing for the first time I knew she was special. I don't know how to describe it but our musics can connect in a very easy and pleasing way. She has many other excellent qualities, and in addition she's hot, but that musical connection is the one essential thing that brought us together. I feel so connected to her, she is my best friend forever and it all started from sharing musical joy together.
As a bi man I've only ever dated subs. I've even been asked to bull those subs relationships as they date subs as well. I'd like to have a loving relationship where I'm the sub.
I like that the person doesn't go to restaurants and hates them as much as I do, since years ago I decided to stop going to restaurants, so I understand that it can be a problem in a relationship.
not really a trait, but the lack of interest or refusal to learn english is a huge plus.
Wait, you prefer someone who's willfully ignorant and intentionality hampers their ability to communicate with most of the world?
Do you also prefer someone who proudly proclaims that they don't read books?
for someone with such an interest in communicating and reading, youre pretty good with reading into stuff 😅
It was the "refusal to learn" bit that threw me.
Nothing wrong with not liking a language or having no use for it, but "refusing to learn" implies that there are good reasons to learn and resources to do so, but they refuse to, regardless. Or maybe that's just my own inference.
Anyway, sorry for being presumptuous. Hard day at work followed by a hard day at home. It's safer to be rude to strangers online than to people I have to deal with regularly IRL.
no worries ❤️ it was a weird way to say it, ive actually never met anyone who says they "refuse" it. but honestly the ones who want to, can be frustrating and even depressing i mean sure, its never a disadvantage to speak english, but imagine this kind of convo dozens of times [context: i live in vietnam]
why you want to learn it? - i want to work in [european county where english is not an official language and labour/immigration laws only allow high skilled workers for specific positions which cannot be filled with ppl from shengen countries]
what do you wanna work there? - customer service
then should i be the asshole who destroys their dreams or the asshole who plays along and feeds their delusions? so if someone is just not interested or is maybe learning korean/japanese/chinese (which probably will be way more useful for them regarding career stuff) its simply a plus for me.
