More comfy reading

Edit: finished! I especially liked this part:

But sex is a thing and, if it isn’t the basis of gender, what is it? Well, this formulation isn’t wrong, per se, it’s merely backwards. Gender forms the basis of sex. We are not born with sex already within us. We have penises, vaginas, breasts, beards, chromosomes, etc, but these things are not sex on their own. They are features of our biology, but we group them into sexes. When we call penises boy parts we are creating and imposing gender upon the body.

This really reframed my entire understanding of what gender even is, very interesting for me. Good recommendation!

One thing I don't quite understand is how I can "say no to gender" if I'm cis. Just, reject that? That wasn't especially clear. I am pan, but in a hetero relationship, so other than broadcasting that it's easy to present as just a cishet man, plus I've lived as a cishet man for the majority of my life. Just want clarification!