Due to multiple factors, such as unaddressed ableist removals from the /c/196 moderators, defense of chasers, no-quarter rules regarding our users, leakage of good-faith DMs from our admin team, and a general lack of initiative to punish these behaviors, we have come to the conclusion that the 196 community on lemmy.blahaj.zone has made the fediverse an unsafe space for our queer, disabled, neurodivergent, non-western, and other marginalized comrades on this forum, and we will be defederating from lemmy.blahaj.zone until we can be confident that this will not continue to be an issue.
We have attempted to make good-faith parley with both the instance admin and the comm moderators, but we've reached a point which we feel that until these behaviors are addressed by instance administration, we can no longer continue to federate in good-faith while our users are being actively invalidated by a small-but-vocal portion of the forum. Once we are confident that these behaviors have ceased and are unlikely to continue, we are more-than-happy to refederate in the name of queer solidarity.
Thanks for bearing with us :07:
If you are in a relationship with a person that is always talking about breaking up and begging for reasons why to not break up the responsible thing to do is break up with them.
They are not a mature community that knows what it wants and what it stands for. It is not our responsibility to help them grow up. They have chosen to say their pro and anti-tankie identity is more important than their identity as a place for LGBTQ to come together and have discussions.
Their choice will turn them into a Rainbow NATO instance that uses their LGBTQ users to rainbow wash the crimes of the empire. They spread anti-communism which in turn leaves their own members vulnerable to attack by fascists. Only the leftists have ever stood against fascists.
Their more open minded users will find somewhere else to go even if they don't end up here and the rest of them will be bullied into support of obviously scratched liberalism.
Yeah I think the lesson behind this is dont let instances string you along and get you to one-sidedly compromise.
I hate to say it but I think you're right. Like there was so much complaining over the first thread about defederating and it wasn't really that bad, like we were more constrained there than other instances, and once they asked us to stay out of their meta threads we did. Meanwhile we've gone full hog on multiple lemm.ee threads, and the lemm.ee admin is anti-Russia/anti-Soviet, and he still didn't even ask us to stay out of the discussion thread, which is 1600 comments full of off-topic stuff.
They don't have a clear leftist ideology, they think our ideological commitments interfere with our support of LGBT rights (when in fact they go hand in hand), and honestly they just have thin skin.
I'm still open to giving it another shot in the future but unfortunately I'm not sure we're really that compatible at the end of the day.
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Alas they are not anti-tankie because one of their users believes the United States should send tanks to Ukraine. If that user had a Hexbear account that account would have been rightly banned a long long time ago.
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Its not that they are libs. Its that don't know who they want to be. Even if they know what they want to be they are lack the conviction to be it because it might make other people uncomfortable.
yep. i tried to convince the trans users over there that 196's actions were unacceptable, and many agreed and even mentioned coming here, so hopefully they stop letting themselves be targets of abuse. i just hope Ada pulls her head out of the sand for her own sake, these sorts of people will turn on her whenever its convenient
Very well said, can't agree more