Hello comrades, it's time for our first discussion thread for The Will to Change! Please share your thoughts below on the first two sections of the book. There's quite a lot to talk about between hooks' discussion of masculinity discourse within feminist circles, the ways both men and women uphold patriarchy, and the near universal experience of men being forced to suppress their rich emotional worlds from a young age. I'll be posting my thoughts in a little bit after I'm done with work.
If you haven't read the book yet but would like to, its available free on the Internet Archive in text form, as well as an audiobook on Youtube with content warnings at the start of each chapter, courtesy of the Anarchist Audio Library, and as an audiobook on our very own TankieTube! (note: the YT version is missing the Preface but the Tankietube version has it) Let me know if you'd like to be added to the ping list!
Our next discussion will be on Chapters 2 (Understanding Patriarchy) and 3 (Being a Boy), beginning on 12/4.
Thanks to everyone who is or will be participating, I'm really looking forward to hearing everyone's thoughts! 
I'm also hoping she goes further into this. I don't actually have a clue what "masculinity" means to me and I can't name a single trait of being "masculine" that's exclusive to men, I just know I hate the macho tough guy bullshit that patriarchy pushes on everyone
yeah people point to fred rogers but if positive masculinity is just "being a decent person while masc-coded" then i don't understand what's the point of the masculinity part
I think those are important steps or images for some people. Without erasing the vital importance of women's culture throughout history, I reach towards universal values. I don't see Mr. Rodgers as a good man so much as a good person who is a man.
The more you unpack patriarchal or machista values, the less relevant gender becomes.