The "angsty badass female warrior who's also a tragic broken flower who feels her entire existence as a warrior is a horrible violation of her femininity"
I think it's fine to have characters who don't like or despise fighting despite being good at it, but I've never liked this specific variation, especially when their arcs always seem to conclude with them being "saved" (or killed) after being humbled by a dude
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It's really annoying how when men get this specific plotline the focus is usually about them getting in touch with the humanity and emotions they've closed themselves off of, or have been actively denied from them
but when women get this plotline, it's a solid 50/50 chance the focus is on them getting in touch with motherhood and sexual intimacy (with a weirdly common focus on their uterus)
it'd be like if a grown child soldier man was weeping because he's never been allowed to do big cums in people. like what the hell
I can't think of any specific example off the top of my head, but I imagine that exists somewhere...
(Edit: Actually if I remember correctly that's basically the premise of the book "The Sun Also Rises", because it's about a guy who got his dick shot off in WW1.)
On the other hand if you have a "grown child soldier man", I imagine that the assumption is that he's got it in at least one point in his life.
It's like the "Solid Snake / Otacon" dichotomy.