This book has been absolutely revelatory for me in understanding men who have hurt me, and how I have hurt some of my partners in turn.

It's important to read it as a series of extreme examples of the worst possible trends, and not as a list of traits where exhibiting one entails another.

For example, in chapter 9 on breakups, I realized that my periods of depression and emotional intensity with exes were inappropriate forms of retaliation because I interpreted breakups as an attack on some level.

Reading this book is giving me the understanding I need to let go.