Hi Friends,

ADHD/Anxiety/OCD haver here. Coping with the symptoms of those 3 disorders especially around the holidays has me feeling really crappy. Mostly because of my poor communication skills with regards to my family. It’s causing stress and strain on my wife and resulted in a fight today.

I don’t know what to do, all I can think about is how much I resent myself for letting this behavior go on for most of my life and now letting it negatively impact my marriage.

I’m not here looking for solutions, but any advice wouldn’t be unappreciated.

More so, I am just looking to say out loud the thing that is eating me up inside…

I am so resentful of myself and wish I could snap my fingers and be better at life. I’m sick of people around me taking the brunt of the mental/emotional baggage I unleash on my surroundings just because I can’t handle being an adult. It’s so exhausting being me and I hate it.

Thanks for reading.

  • eldavi@lemmy.ml
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    2 days ago

    I’ve realized that part of my lying to myself is not allowing me to be completely open and honest with my therapist. That has lead to them thinking I am making great strides, when I’m really not. They praise my progress and I take those affirmations and go about my life still broken and still negatively affecting my loved ones with the same old bullshit I always have.

    now i'm starting to wonder if you are me from another dimension because i done this same thing too.

    therapists are sometimes experienced enough to expect you to deceive yourself as much as you might deceive them; coming clean might be the something different you're looking for.

    also: therapists are human beings too, if their training isn't sufficient to help them separate the real version of you (after you come clean) from the fake version of you from before, then they will find someone who can help and it will be with someone who is better at detecting self deception to help you.

    if you still need to find another therapist, they're also trained for that as well. you can ask them for a referral and their training will enable it after they're satisfied that you're not doing it for a bad reason. admitting that you haven't been completely candid is valid reason and they will accept it if they're a good therapist; they're not there to judge you.

    • nothx [he/him]
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      2 days ago

      now i'm starting to wonder if you are me from another dimension because i done this same thing too.

      Hahaha, I swear I’m not! But yeah, it makes a lot of sense that this behavior isn’t just me. Makes me feel a bit better about my chances of fixing this too.

      Thanks for the helpful response, this is my first therapy experience and I feel weird about breaking up with them, but their job is to support me and give me perspective, even if that perspective is agreeing that I need something/someone new.