Me in my 30s: "my doctor says I need to eat nothing but kale and lukewarm water or I'll die at 50" deeper-sadness

  • operacion_ogro [he/him]
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    12 hours ago

    I have an aunt in her 70s that can now no longer walk and has lost her vision after ignoring her doctors about controlling her diabetes for 20 years. just kept on chowing down on pasta and sugary drinks, not taking any of her medications. I do not get it at all. now all her retired siblings are having to figure out the schedule for taking care of her for the next decade or whatever.

    I noticed something with boomers in my family. they all swore up and down that "when the time comes, I don't want to be a burden" but despite all the material capacity, time to plan, and infrastructure in the world, they have made absolutely zero plans to become anything but a sudden and insane burden on everyone around them, who are all working poor and can barely support themselves.

    I'm dealing with this with my dad lately. He has a laundry list of health problems, including diabetes, that he ignored for over a decade, and now his health is completely imploding, which my family now has to scramble to help him with. Motherfucker spent a two months in the hospital and went straight back to his old bad habits as soon as he was out.

    • came_apart_at_Kmart [he/him, comrade/them]
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      12 hours ago

      seriously infuriating. I get wanting to sunset on your own terms, but purposely disabling yourself in front of your loved ones has got to be some kind of emotional blackmail.