It can be low effort, passive-aggressive, insulting or derogatory towards your convictions.

  • lichtmetzger@discuss.tchncs.de
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    24 minutes ago

    My sister gifted me the third book of a fantasy trilogy series once.
    I never read or got the first two books.

    Also, when I was little, my grandma (who hated me with passion) bought me a pink bike just to piss me off, because she thought a boy wouldn't ever like that color. I rode that bike until I was too tall to use it and every time she saw me enjoying that thing she was furious. :)

  • Truffle@lemmy.ml
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    34 minutes ago

    Too small clothes so I'd be excited to go on a diet and lose weight... as an already very sick underweight teen with an eating disorder who wasn't a wize zero "but you'll get there"

    Paulo Cohelo's garbage books to "help me with my constant depression that keeps bringing everyone down and you like books, no?"

    Stuffed animal toy thay was first intended for a baby shower but the mom didn't want it so "why should it go to waste if you can have it as a birthday present"

    Plastic surgery offering as a sweet sixteen present "so you can feel beautiful"

    Professional acne treatment (Accutane) as a birthday present because "Oh you poor thing need it"

    A used and stained old yellow blouse "because it will make you look happier" I hate yellow.

    And the list goes on lol. That was growing up and it is one of the many reasons why I am no contact with all of those people.

    Now as an independent adult in a stable loving relaionship surrounded by nice genuine friends, I actually get very thoughtful and beautiful gifts. Some expensive, some with no monetary cost.

  • Gerudo@lemm.ee
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    10 hours ago

    Not me, but my wife.

    She receives an envelope from her grandmother, oh cool, money!
    She opened it and it was empty. Okay, no fuss she probably forgot to fill one when making all of them for the family. A week later, she told her grandma it was empty. Her grandma replied "No! There's no way it was empty, your mistaken." This is par for the course. She ignores my wife all the time and talks down to her.

    So an empty envelope is the worst I've seen.

  • BlackRing@midwest.social
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    10 hours ago

    I had an aunt and uncle who, when I was a kid maybe 12, were not well off. They got my brother and I each this toyset that was like make pretend welding. It had a hand tool that, if I remember, let you weld with this soft plastic to make things with the parts in the kit.

    It also had a chamber near the nozzle that spun and contained something that made a bunch of sparks.

    Well... The thing kept zapping and burning me. Kinda hurt. So, being 12, I complained about it.

    And of course, I was an ingrate for not liking the toy they could afford instead of a Lego set or something. The worst of it was I got what my parents meant, my aunt and uncle were kind of ashamed. But it burned me.

    Hell I thought it was really cool, and even said so, but I couldn't keep playing with it due to, you know, my hand being red and kinda cut up.

    Just bad times all around.

    And no, no one suggested put a glove on, and it did not come with one.

  • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee
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    12 hours ago

    Someone sent me what they referred to as a self-help DVD that was just some motivational speaker type of person invalidating my issues. A virus in the DVD also temporarily destroyed my friend's DVD player in the process of playing it.

  • anarchoilluminati [comrade/them]
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    10 hours ago

    Sounds really fucked up of me, but I once had a girlfriend gift me a painting she made for me. I could tell she really tried, took her time, spent money on it, and she chose a subject matter I really liked, but it was absolutely terrible. One of the worst paintings I've ever seen.

    It put me in such a dilemma because she even framed it and was expecting me to hang it up at my place but I couldn't bear to hang it and see it 'decorating' my place. I thanked her a lot when she gave it to me but I would've preferred she had gotten me nothing instead.

  • Hellnikko@lemmy.ml
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    14 hours ago

    I was given 30 quarters that had letters and numbers on each one in a black velvet pouch. If you put them in a certain order, it had a message. The quarters went in year order. The message was a Bible passage according to Matthew. It was when Judas was given 30 silver for betraying Jesus.

    The context, I told one of our friends that the gifter was trying to get with his wife while he was deployed. He denied and then made me feel like shit to insinuate such a thing. Turns out, it was true.

    I still have the quarters so I could give them back some day.

    • blackbrook@mander.xyz
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      6 hours ago

      Wasn't Judas the one who did the denying? So by referencing this isn't the gifter calling himself Judas and not you?

      • propter_hog [any, any]
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        3 hours ago

        Not a Christian, but it was Peter who denied Christ, and Judas betrayed him to the authorities. So in a way, OP is kind of like Judas, if Jesus was a dudebro who liked sleeping with deployed soldiers' wives and felt crucified if you told on him.

  • BigBananaDealer@lemm.ee
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    11 hours ago

    one of my buddies got a mtn dew. thats it

    another got a playstation gift card, which would have been good but he didnt have a playstation

  • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)@lemmy.sdf.org
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    14 hours ago

    Not the gift itself, but the response.

    First of all, even before Christmas I said I'd prefer NO GIFTS at all. Regardless, my dad got me some inkjet HP printer. I thanked him for it, but asked him that we'd return it. I tried to be respectful, but regardless, he got mad at me and didn't talk with me for like 2 days.

    Later he sent me the money for it and asked me to buy something for it and show him what it was. I do not know why I couldn't just keep it as extra money, but oh well, it had to be spent on something.
    I got a refurbished ThinkPad for that. Pretty good device, by far beating value of HP inkjet. I even got it with a 2 year warranty (without extended) like with a new device, while only 1 year is required.

    • bobs_monkey@lemm.ee
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      12 hours ago

      My mom knows I'm always buying tools for work (electrician) and computer-related parts/devices. She still has trouble wrapping around the idea that I don't want (as much as I sincerely do appreciate the gesture) anything in those arenas due to specificity of requirement, that and most things of that nature tend to be expensive. She still buys little random things from Home Depot, like last year she bought this wrist cuff thing with magnets on it. Great idea on paper, but not in the field. At this point she's getting older so I kinda just humor her.