My last crushpost got a little weird. They usually don’t get much attention, and what little there is I think is usually men. So this thread should be a good opportunity for women and enbies to bring up what you find problematic.

Update:

Thanks everyone for responding. I have read all the replies and am giving them serious consideration. I will stop crushposting, I deleted all the posts, and deleted the meat of this post as well. Weird or not, however obfuscated, it’s still an obsession and a privacy concern.

  • KnilAdlez [none/use name]
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    6 days ago

    I'm going to be honest with you hoss, I'm not actually interested in this drama but I'm bored and the topic is inane and everyone needs to actually humble themselves here. The golden rule, that we aaaaall learned, is treat others how you want to be treated. How do you want your crush to navigate this situation? Would you want your crush posting about you online? Get out of your fucking head and be honest with this person. It's literally two questions, easy flowchart:

    • I am interested in you, do you want to go out?
    • (if yes) Where and when? (if no) That's cool, can we still be friends?

    Hard truth: you need to grow up. Everyone attacking you needs to grow up too, because first thing anyone should have said is that you're going to look back on this and cringe in a few years.