1. Although i wasnt beaten terribly or anything awful, and i do receive love and support from my father, patriarchal norms still negatively affect me and my mental health greatly. Luckily, i can continue doing the work of caring for my emotional self and practice compassion for others, and open up emotionally especially to other men, to directly combat the patriarchy.
2. It has informed how i can improve my relationships. It has lessened the mental load of needing to measure up to patriarchal norms and gives me permission to focus on my own well being.
3. It is hard to moderate out misogyny. It is present in every one of us since birth. But there are probably some guidelines that dont overly punish people that are trying in good faith. Practice compassion for the posters as well as the subjects of posting. For instance if someone is posting about some chud, but is using misogyny, we can educate that misogyny is not an avenue we need to use and we can still have compassion for the chud we are dunking on. But also, any hint of bad fath misogynistic argument should still be immediately removed. This book is a great resource to reeducate those that are good faith but also dont understand their misogyny.

I would recommend this book to just about anyone, but especially men or those that love men or are in relationships with men.

Also, i am here for the next menby book club though i have no suggestions