It happened to me recently at work. I don't even find her physically attractive, and her personality is not what I'm into at all. But I was still somehow attracted to her - and she also was to me. She didn't like me, and I certainly am not the kind of man she goes for. It's like we had a strong connection in one area beneath the subconscious or something, but every other area was completely incompatible. Aggressively so.

Anyone else have anything similar?

    • spitz@lemmy.ml
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      10 months ago

      I can't imagine that being my default. It was infuriating enough just once!

  • chrizbie@lemmy.nz
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    10 months ago

    Interesting, I have found myself sexually attracted to some older women that aren't really that attractive physically but they give off kind of a sultry vibe, but I couldn't say I found them repulsive in any way, does that ring familiar?

  • Schlemmy@lemmy.ml
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    10 months ago

    Yes, I've been with a girl like that for 2 years. My friends told me that I could get better looking women and found 8t strange I hooked up with her but my god, she got me going. Also, she was a nymphomaniac. That's the main reason we broke up. Having sex twice a day takes the fun out of it if you're not a sex addict. I encountered her a few weeks ago. She gained a lot of weight but I still wanted to screw her badly. It's totally weird.

  • Mothra@mander.xyz
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    10 months ago

    Yes. Many times. I'm a woman btw. I never got anywhere with these people though, probably for the best. (Not sure if in your case you did?)

    • spitz@lemmy.ml
      hexagon
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      10 months ago

      As in, hook up with the person? Haha no that didn't happen. I thought the same as you, probably for the best.

        • spitz@lemmy.ml
          hexagon
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          10 months ago

          Actually, one of my exes really liked a song called Fuck Me Like You Hate Me. She was also quite hatable. It added some spice in the bedroom, but a high price was paid. I'm not really interested in revisiting that...

  • axont [she/her, comrade/them]
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    10 months ago

    I don't have a lot of experience with dating and I'm kind of a loner, so I've had a problem over the past decade of jumping at whoever expresses interest in me. It's a bad habit. The last two people I dated ended up being deep transphobes, both laughed when I told them I'm non-binary. With the last one, we had already been on like 3 dates or so and had gotten a little intimate, so that really made me ashamed of myself.

    The last person revealed themselves to be a Raëlian too, the UFO cult. A lot of other conspiracy theory junk bouncing around their brain too. They must have known all of this stuff would turn me away, because none of it came out until I had known them for two months and we'd already considered ourselves close. Advice for the future: Ask anyone you're gonna date important questions about their view of the world before doing anything further, it'll save time. Figure out their religion, politics, stance on trans/gay people, everything, because for me it was a little devastating. I thought I had finally found someone. Oh well.

    • Droechai@lemm.ee
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      10 months ago

      First date questions:

      Do you believe in the moon?

      Would you describe the world as a sphere, a disc or a construct created by the elders of Zion designed to keep people distracted from something else?

      Hmm, maybe it's third date questions, together with questions regarding family goals and values and where they want to be in five years time?

      • axont [she/her, comrade/them]
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        10 months ago

        at first I thought you said elders of Zeon and I imagined accidentally dating Char Aznable in disguise

        but yeah I'm gonna have to start asking basic questions about the moon landing, validity of trans people, and even if humans evolved from earlier primates

  • HornyOnMain
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    10 months ago
    CW for bigotry

    Used to be really attracted to a guy I completely hated because he was (and still is) a far right orthodox Christian homophobe and transphobe who told me to my face that he thought I was probably a pedophile because I was openly bisexual

  • Lvxferre@lemmy.ml
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    10 months ago

    I get this all the time. In the past I acted on this sort of attraction, sometimes even hooking with the woman in question, but nowadays I don't do it because it's more trouble than it's worth.

  • suckaduck@feddit.nl
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    10 months ago

    If you're both thirsty and not held back by committed relationships you might as well tap each other. I certainly would and have. Ooga booga sex.